I don't know how illiterate people can even use this site but I think they must! So many people send me messages about crap which clearly show that they haven't read my profile at all- even after I have tried to make it as clear and condensed as possible.
People need to understand that when one fills out their Interpals profile, they have an option to click which fields they are interested in. The choices we have are:
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Email Pen Pals
Snail Mail Pen Pals
Language Exchange
Friendship
Romance/Flirting
A Relationship
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Of these, I have chosen: Email Pen Pals, Snail Mail Pen Pals and Friendship. These show up at the very top of my profile so to read them, you don't even need to take the effort of scrolling down.
Therefore, it is really easy to see what a certain user is on this site for. We are given a choice of selecting 1- 6 options. Some people come to this site to find a relationship, others just for flirting, some are looking for a snail mail pen pal and some might just be looking for friendship. The choice is ours. I think it is respectful however, to understand that just because 1 person might be seeking to flirt, that doesn't mean every user is after the same thing. This is not complicated! The moderators make it easy for us to distinguish between the users who are here for a relationship and those who are here for friendship. It should not be so complicated! Unfortunately, there are so many people on here who simply don't get it and I'm sick of it.
When I send another user who states that they are seeking 'friendship' a message introducing myself, it pisses me off when they reply by saying: "I'm only interested in men, thank you. If you know of any single men in your country between the ages of 27-32, let me know."
Or when they seem to accuse me of cracking on to them just because I state that I'm a lesbian. I also state that I'm in a happy, stable relationship and no where on my profile does it suggest that I want to flirt with anyone on this site!

A similar thing which annoys me is when I get messages from people who seem to think that I'm here for language exchange. Yes, Interpals is a great place to help each other out with language studies, but it is not the only purpose (I don't think I need to repeat myself). I don't mind getting messages from people who want me to help them with their English. I'm very happy to help people out whenever I can. That's not what I'm referring to.

The other day, I got a message on my wall accusing me of just sending messages to all these people from Europe without even trying to speak another language. Well, why would I? I haven't clicked the 'language exchange' button on my profile and I don't state that I'm trying to learn any languages. Just because I want to find friends and am only interested in helping out other people with their language studies (in English) does that make me a terrible person?
The guy (who was from America) even said, "How is your foreign language study coming?　Or is this site like an online bar to you? *chuckle*" 
I didn't dignify his pathetic message with a response... instead, I decide to rant about it to my friends on here (sorry about that). I just feel that someone has to point out the fact that not everyone is here for the same reason and you shouldn't put others down without even reading the facts! I mean, why would this American jerk go to all the trouble of going to my page and writing a mean message to me, when all he had to do was actually open up his eyes (and mind) to see that he is the one misusing this site??
Oh and his username is www.interpals.net/Jetfighter just in case you were wondering.