I am from a divorced background,lots of violence,abuse,near murders,etc:so I am very well aware of marriage & what it can bring.I used to be a romantic but now I just focus on loving myself the way I always wanted to love others...it is less wasteful for me&less "hardening"to the heart(after all:I can't stab me in the back,lol). HIV/AIDS is another thing that is very high here & 1 has to be very careful who 1 dates& gets intimate with.(been there before). I do have a Philipina pal here in Durban:she always said how shocking it was for her to adjust to my countries ways/values(marriage means little here,divorce rates are very high,etc). I agree fully about being good/kind:I "hear"things & 1 of the best guidances I received was to always do what I was born to do&be happy...that way if anyone tries to take things from me, I will always still be happy as I am doing what I was born to do& what makes me happy. As long as I am where I am meant to be,I am cool with it. Hugs..thank you!